Connect to Kids

Connect to Kids

Connect•to•Kids offers:

  • Parent Education,

  • Parent Skills Coaching (during visit supervision)

  • Parenting Assessment services

This includes:

  • In-home, in-office or in-community educational parenting instruction
  • In-home, in-office or in-community parent skills coaching and assessment
  • Detailed parenting progress reports documenting each education or coaching session
  • Detailed parenting assessments including strengths, challenges, recommendations
  • Sibling visit supervision

Connect•to•Kids’ goals and projected outcomes:

Connect-to-Kids focuses on building parent strengths in five core domains. Deficits in these domains can increase the risk of parenting abuse and neglect (both of which are failures in judgment on the parent’s part – abuse is more impulsive, neglect is more passive):

    • Parenting Skills (develop a toolbox of strategies that assists parent in caring for the child: child management and discipline skills, safety and emergency response skills, warmth and nurturance, problem solving, developmental expectations and needs, physical care and medical care)
    • Social Cognitive Skills (helping parent make sense of behaviors in realistic and positive ways and respond appropriately)
    • Self Control Skills (parent will learn and model self-control skills)
    • Stress Management Skills (ensure that parents are taking care of self and develop a healthy support network)
    • Social Skills (interpersonal skills that enhance parents ability to engage appropriately with all those individuals involved in child’s care, emphasis on assertive communication)

By providing education, guidance and goal-setting in these areas, our projected outcomes are to:

1. Reduce the risk of parenting abuse and neglect.

2. Improve the quality of parent-child visits/interactions in home, at DCF or in the community:

  • Replace negative remarks, labeling, criticism, & punishing behaviors with much more positive ways of communicating
  • Encourage cooperation, fun, and closeness between parents and children
  • Encourage parents to adhere to visit goals including not discussing inappropriate topics or making promises in front of children
  • Build structure and routine into the visits including “see you later” rituals to ease the transition of children leaving parents at the end of the visit (more peaceful transitions)
  • Improve meal, snack and drink choices that parents bring for visits
  • Help parents communicate with their children in age-appropriate ways
  • Provide related exercises for children that complement what parents are learning

3. Give parents a toolbox of parenting skills to address misbehavior and improve parent-child relationships:

Learn to empathize with children and effectively handle their feelings
Resolve conflicts in a way that everyone wins
Prevent and redirect power struggles through the power of choices
Handle inappropriate bids for attention
Explore alternatives to physical punishment
Set effective limits in a kind but firm way; tame temper tantrums
Focus on fixing the problems that children’s misbehavior creates instead of punishing arbitrarily
Connect•to•Kids Program

4. Help prepare parents for successful outcomes when/if reunification occurs:

Create reasonable rules/routines around meals, homework, bedtime, and chores
Help parents continue to implement new tools to gain cooperation and improve family communication
Help parents break the cycle of punishment for misbehavior and focus on helping children fix their mistakes (creating logical consequences)
Help families create a family mission statement and set up family meetings
Help parents advocate for their children and themselves
Encourage shared activities, fun and closeness between parents and children in the home